Boundaries by Jaylynn Davis
What you allow will continue. Now, I'm sure you have heard that little phrase before, but allow me to elaborate on that. How you allow someone to treat you is how they will continue to treat you. How you allow someone to disrespect you is how they will continue to disrespect you. And so on. You have to set boundaries and be strong enough to enforce those boundaries. It’s so easy to say that you won’t allow something, but it is harder to act on it. We are defined by our actions, not our words. Acting upon these boundaries and removing anyone that disrespects these boundaries is crucial. If someone crossed that line, it is your job to do whatever it takes to reinforce those boundaries or remove that person from your life. If they do not respect your boundaries, they do not respect you, remember that.
When someone does something to mistreat us and we brush it off, it shows them that they can do it again without consequences. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that you should not forgive that person. I’m saying that you should not forget how they mistreated you so that you can enforce the right boundaries to not let it happen again. Setting boundaries is a form of self-love. Enforcing these boundaries is a form of self-care. Allowing people to overstep these boundaries is a form of disrespect to yourself. You do not want others to disrespect you, so why would you disrespect yourself? You must know your worth – you are priceless! Now behave accordingly!
You are not available to just anyone. Never settle for the bare minimum. People need to earn the right to be close to you and to know your story. Set your standards so high that it takes someone amazing to reach them. Never settle. Use your boundaries and don’t let anyone overstep. This goes hand-in-hand with learning to say no. Learning to say no will take you so far in life. When you set boundaries and say no to any behavior that does not respect those boundaries, then you are demanding the respect that you deserve. Yes, I said it. The respect that YOU deserve. You deserve to be respected, as do others, regardless of past decisions. Your past does not define you. Let your past self go. You are getting better and better each day.
Set a boundary, enforce it, and become a better you!